Friday, December 19, 2014

The natural hair struggle is real

I have been reading too many natural hair blogs.

Crushing on too many natural curls.

Sipping the natural "Kool-Aid."

Because I was speechless during a recent conversation with women who aren't natural, in their 40s, about natural hair.

I was shocked and saddened. We still have a long, long way to go, folks.

These were some of the comments I heard:

"It's primitive. They need to go back to Africa with that hair."

 "Natural hair isn't for everybody."

"Some of us need a perm."

"It's cute ... but."

"Natural hair styles do not work in corporate America." "They want straight hair."

"Why they gotta have twists? It just doesn't look right."

"I am not taking anybody with me with their hair looking like ... that."

"Dreads look nasty to me, like there's something in their hair, like it's not washed."

"YOU can wear natural hair because your hair is softer, but everybody can't."

"I know everybody is going natural, but I'm sticking with the creamy crack."

"I won't let my kids wear natural hair to an interview."


Just stop!!! It got to be too much. I felt like the natural hair ambassador, trying to defend it and rebuke those statements. I felt the weight of the natural hair community on my shoulder, for a brief minute.What are we telling ourselves about US? I thought maybe it was generational, regional even.

Then I let it go because you know what? NOTHING will ever convince women dead set against kinks and coils that it's OK.  Nothing will ever make them think that hair that is not silky straight is pretty. That it's not corporate, despite the many styles and ways we can wear our hair that will look professional and polished in any board room.

Natural hair is OUR issue -- not White America's.It's a mental battle -- and that's where I exited stage left. We have come full circle - from bad ass, bodacious fros to relaxed hair and back to natural. Natural hair is a choice or a preference -- and everybody ain't ready.

What I won't do, though, is after all we've been through in the will anyone make me believe that what grows out of my head is less than.

It just made me realize that, despite the bloggers, YouTubers and Instagrammers, natural hair is growing, but it's still not the norm for some. 

Loving this jacket!

I love the jacket as a dress look, worn by Adrienne Baillon of The Real and by Rihanna, that's really a throwback from the 90s jacket dresses (remember those)?

Wonder if I can recreate at a thrift store? Either way, Adrienne's jacket is $33 here.

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Naomi Campbell for Madame Figaro

Supermodel Naomi Campbell is one of those beautiful women who could wear a paper bag and it would look good.

Look and swoon.

Celeb looks

I am totally feeling these looks by Tia Mowry and Kloe Kardashian.

Tia went ultra sexy glam at the premiere of Selma, wearing a Stone Cold Fox tuxedo dress with a thigh high split. I love the look and feel of the tuxedo dress -- a bit masculine but glammed up. Love it! Celeb fashion done right!

Tia Mowry in a tuxedo dress

I'm also feeling this look by Khloe Kardashian. I love unexpected fashion pairings - leather and denim, sequins and jeans, (you get the idea). So I'm really loving how Khloe paired leather (a fave of mine) with a tied plaid shirt. Totally different take on this look.

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

What Naptural85 said ...

If there's one post that I think every person with natural hair needs to read and let soak in, it is this one by naptural85.

Years after many of us have let go the creamy crack and replaced it with curly puddings, oils and potions, this is still one issue that many naturals struggle with. The natural hair "struggle" is real for every single one of us - whether you are a newbie or a veteran.

In many ways, it's a good thing for natural hair care manufacturers; cause we'll buy every production, potion and cream out there. But not so good for our self esteem: I can guarantee you that as women, we want the opposite of the hair that's on our head, and someone else's curls always looks better than our own.

But we want CurlyNikki's hair. Or My Natural Sistas. Or Strawberry Curls.

Or, insert your favorite blogger's name here.

Maybe we're wired that way -- to appreciate others' hair while not exactly "liking" our own and wishing we had someone else's. Maybe it's the fault of hair blogs, YouTube and Instagram. One thing's for sure tho, as naptural85 said, natural hair acceptace is a mofo.


Monday, December 15, 2014

Naomi Campbell and Jourdan Dunn make Burberry history

It's damn near 2015, but that doesn't mean that many haute couture brands feature Black folks for their campaigns -- even though they count plenty of Black customers as their customer base (that's a blog for another day).

Iconic brand Burberry is featuring supermodels Naomi Campbell and Jourdan Dunn for their Spring 2015 campaign-- reportedly, the first time the brand has used Black models for their campaigns It is progress, no doubt, but it should have happened a LONG time ago.

They couldn't have picked a better duo: Campbell made history on the covers of Vogue and Elle and runway modeling for top brands; Dunn made history modeling for Prada after no Black models in more than a decade.

See the spread below:

RIP Miss Jessie's Titi Branch

Sad news in the natural hair community: Titi Branch, co-founder of popular and pioneering natural hair care line Miss Jessie's, died of an apparent suicide on Dec. 4, according to media reports.

It's important to point out that NV Magazine posted an obituary for Branch on their Facebook page on Sunday, Dec. 14 and while media outlets have confirmed her death, there has been no independent verification that her death was a suicide.

Branch is credited with creating Miss Jessie's curly pudding, helping to cement the hair care product in the minds of legions of natural hair care years before hair care products that catered to natural hair were available on the shelves of major retailers such as Target and Walmart.

What started out as a small natural hair start up soon expanded to an empire: Miss Jessie's was one of the first natural products available at mass retailers and its success is credited with helping the natural hair care movement explode.

It is one of a handful of sudden deaths in the natural hair community in recent months. Karyn Washington, 22, ounder of the and the Red Lip Project, which encouraged dark skinned Black women to rock red lipsticks, died of a suicide in April. Another popular blogger, Domineque Banks, 27, died of lupus in April 2014. l